Survive your first date with these icebreakers.
If you’re reading this article, you’re probably worrying about asking the wrong questions on your date. First dates are often awkward, especially if you’re trying to impress your date. One wrong question, and the whole evening is ruined. Bye-bye, second date.
So, it is always great to be ready with a set of questions. No, no, we won’t be asking you to list them down and read them in front of your date. We won’t ask you to get a teleprompter either. Go over the list a few hours before, and don’t fret too much about it. It all has to come out naturally. Otherwise, you’d sound like a robot or worse, an interviewer. They key here is to avoid dead air!
Without further ado, here’s the list of the ten best first date questions we get from an asian dating websites, in which we think would guarantee you a second, a third, and so on, date.
1. What do you do?
This we think is the best ice breaker. Of course, who wouldn’t be curious about what your date does for a living? It’s okay to ask next how long they’ve been doing it and how it is so far. Work-related questions are safe, but don’t ask too much, as it might remind them of deadlines and work stress.
2. Where did you go to school?
This question is related to the first one. If your date says that they’re a personal injury lawyer, they probably went to law school. But so you don’t make any assumptions, go ahead and ask them major in school and why they chose to study it.
3. Where did you grow up?
This question shows that you really are interested to get to know your date better. If they answer a place you know, tell a story about your experiences there. Otherwise, you can ask what the best spots there are in their hometown.
4. What type of music do you like?
Music, according to poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, is the universal language of mankind. Ask them about their favorite songs and artists. If you like the same genres and listen to same artists and bands, you’re in luck! But if not, you can still learn about new bands and expand your tastes!
5. What is your favorite TV show?
Talking about TV shows you both watch will kill dead air! Ask them about their most and least favorite characters, as well as his favorite episode. I’m pretty sure your date watches “Game of Thrones” too, so don’t be afraid to ask what he thinks about Cersei’s murderous move! If they don’t, you can convince them to watch.
6. What’s your favorite movie?
This is the question to ask if your date is not a TV person. Ask them why it’s their favorite movie, as well as who their favorite character is in the film. You can also ask if they prefer watching in the cinema or just in the comfort of their home.
7. Are you a dog or a cat person?
According to the American Pet Products Association (APPA), roughly 37-47% of all households in the U.S. have a dog, and 30-37% have a cat. So there’s a chance your date owns a pet. Ask them why they prefer having a dog or cat. You can even ask about the tricks it can do. They probably has a photo of their dog or cat so ask if you can see it.
8. What are you passionate about?
This is a question that could yield a long answer, which is a good thing! If you’re lucky, you’ll see the twinkle in their eyes while they tell you everything about their passion.
9. Do you have a bucket list? How many items have you crossed out?
Talking about bucket lists is always a fun topic. You can compare items on the list and talk about those that have already been crossed out. This way, you and your date can re-live happy memories. Who knows, you might be doing the next items on your list together in the future!
10. Do you have any fun plans for the rest of the weekend or do you have a busy week ahead?
This question is like indirectly asking if they’re up to a second date. Only ask this if you DO want a second date! This, of course, can already imply that you had fun and would very much like to see them again.
Allow your date to talk freely and don’t butt in. Listen intently to every word they’re saying, but be careful not to stare! Staring sends the wrong signals, and you’ll be tagged as the creepy date.
Check your date’s body language. If you ask a question and notice that they isn’t comfortable with it, quickly change the subject to something more light-hearted and friendly. Talking about happy, positive experiences does the trick.
Don’t be afraid to ask to follow up questions, and try to answer your date’s questions honestly as possible. Remember, you have to be your true self; pretending to be someone you’re not will get you nowhere. Believe us, this has been tried and tested!
Good luck with your future dates, and we hope you find The One. Ask a friend to play matchmaker for you.
Any other first date questions you’d like to add on the list? Feel free to add them in the comments section below!