You met your partner through Asian dating websites. Clearly, the digital age has changed relationships and how we meet people. Because of the connectivity the Internet provides, you and your partner’s online presences mean more visibility on social media platforms.
At the start of the relationship, it can feel wonderful to see a notification that your partner sent you a message or posted on your social media page. However, once your relationship progresses, there are going to be growing pains that can make maintaining a modicum of privacy online difficult.
Arguments can spill online for all the world to see and that can hurt your chances of keeping the relationship a healthy one. To avoid such issues, remember that you and your partner are both in control of what you post on your social media pages. Here are five social media ground rules that can help your relationship:
No Vague, Passive-Aggressive Posts
It makes relationship issues way worse. Don’t air your dirty laundry, ever, even if it’s in a passive-aggressive manner. It makes you look petty and immature, looking for validation from people who aren’t involved in your relationship in any way. Deal with these problems directly and communicate with your partner instead.
Talk About Relationship Status First
Say things are going pretty well with the person you’re going out with. In fact, things are looking so good that you just decided to announce on social media that you’re in a relationship. However, there’s a problem. The person you’re dating doesn’t feel the same way just yet. When changing relationship status, don’t jump the gun. Talk about it with your partner first.
Don’t Stalk Your Partner’s Online Interactions
On social media, you’re going to notice your significant other having conversations with his/her other friends. Social media interactions are normal; what isn’t is projecting insecurities onto these communications. Don’t overanalyze. If you’re feeling a tinge of jealousy about a random social media post your partner shared, talk to them or focus on why you’re feeling insecure in the first place. After all, nobody knows you better than yourself.
Another downside, it doesn’t feel comforting dating someone that stalks your every post. It gives the impression that you don’t trust them.
Discuss What You’re Comfortable Sharing
You and your partner may have differences about what you’re comfortable sharing about your relationship. He/she might be comfortable sharing your adventures as a couple, while you may not be as inclined. Before posting anything relationship-related, talk about it with your partner first.
Don’t Make Private Messages Public
It’s annoying for other people. Cute messages like “I miss you, when are you coming home?” don’t belong on social media, and you can communicate these via other means like calling or texting. Yes, expressing how you feel is important, but you don’t have to let the whole world know about it. Keep it personal with your partner and everything is going to be just fine.
You don’t need other people’s validation on how your relationship is going. It can be very tempting to share tidbits of how much you love and cherish your partner on social media, but if you’re only looking for likes or comments on how good your relationship is, that’s shallow.
What truly matters isn’t the number of likes your posts get, but your partner’s comfort and happiness. It doesn’t have to be through public gestures; the best way to make sure your relationship is a happy one is through listening to what they have to say, supporting their goals, and by trusting them all throughout.