Overcoming Your Online Dating Anxieties

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Dating can be a scary thing. What makes it so frightening for some people is the fact that dating exposes you; it makes you feel vulnerable because you have to open up to a complete stranger you hardly know.

Signing up for Asian dating websites is a great way for you to take the edge off when you’re trying to meet new people. You can meet people who have the same interests as you which can make starting conversations easier. However, there are still unknowns, like if they be interested in you, which can be terrifying when you think about it too much.

Whether it’s online or face-to-face, dating can be risky, but you can only meet the right person when you put yourself out there. Here are some of the ways you can overcome your dating fears:

Overcoming the Fear of the Unknown

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For people who are new to online dating, the scary part is dealing with all the unknowns in this new world with its social norms. Questions like: “How should I start a conversation?” and “When should I ask him/her out?” are common concerns.

One of the best ways to overcome this fear is to do your research. Ask friends who use online dating websites. Ask them about their experiences and about the do’s and don’t’s. Of course, there are also lots of online dating tips that you can refer to.

Overcoming the Fear of Blank Pages

Another fear for some is filling out the dating profile. What do you put on there? What pictures would look good? What’s the best way to describe yourself? Those are some of the questions that can be nerve-racking.

When you’re setting up your online dating profile, the best way to do it is by answering the right questions: What’s happening in your life right now? What do you do when you have free time? What are you looking for in a potential partner? What are you looking to do with your profile? In answering those questions, you can have a better shot at setting up an accurate profile that reflects who you are.  

Overcoming the Fear of Rejection

No one likes rejection, but the world of dating is a hit or miss thing. Sending messages and not getting replies can be very frustrating and frightening. You might start to ask “What am I doing wrong?” and start doubting yourself. It’s natural. But it’s important to remember that those same people are trying and putting themselves out there same as you.

Dating, whether online or face-to-face, means putting on your brave face. Don’t mind the ones who say no — they just helped you narrow down your search for the one. Keep trying and remember, fortune favors the brave.

Overcoming the Fear of Face-to-Face Interaction

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Online dating is the means, not the end. Once you meet someone on the website that you really hit it off with, the next part of the interaction would be dating face-to-face. If you’re afraid of a real-life date, you’re not the only one. One out of three people who date online have never been on an actual date. Making that transition can be hard, but at some point, that date has to happen.

Remember to make that move once you start feeling comfortable and when it feels right. If you’ve been chatting with someone for months now and haven’t been on a date once, it may be time to assess what you really want out of online dating. If you want to move the relationship forward, ask them out.

Overcoming the Fear of Commitment

So you met someone special online, and you’ve met in face-to-face a few times now. You’re starting to feel the connection; you’re starting to feel intimate with this person. Suddenly something feels weird. Now that you have what you’re looking for – love and companionship – you’re suddenly intimidated by the idea of being in a long-term commitment, which means lots of big changes in your life.

Being afraid of changing your way of life is natural. When your relationship is moving forward, make sure everything is moving at a pace you’re comfortable with. Trust your judgment and evaluate things as they happen. You’ll be fine!


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